An open letter to every Anti-Public Breastfeeding Person

*Photo c/o Gisele Bundchen Instagram

I am writing this at the heels of model Gisele Bundchen's IG photo of her multitasking and breastfeeding her baby in public

Dear Anti-Public Breast Feeding Person:

I never imagined that I would have to write a letter like this. But I am forced to do so in response to your ignorance, and decision to berate those of us who breastfeed in public.

What's even more heartbreaking, is that I know many of you are mothers. Who I am sure would do anything to feed and care for your child. Do you really believe that I am exposing my breast so that you can see them?

Something is fundamentally wrong with our society, when a mother who breastfeeds her baby in public causes a debate. While more overtly sexualized images can be seen at the local mall.

The problem is not that my breast might be seen when my son moves his head while he is breastfeeding. The real problem is that your mind has gone beyond the simplicity and beauty of something as natural as childbirth. You have corrupt it into something sexually explicit, vulgar and offensive. Somehow along the way you forgot that before formula or bottles existed, everyone was breastfed via their mother or wet nurse in public and private. That breastfeeding is not about you and your feelings, but about feeding our babies.

I want you to remember a few things the next time you see me or any other mother breastfeed in public:

When I breastfeed my baby in public, I am not displaying my breasts in a sexual way for you to see. Nor am I purposefully trying to expose myself.

When I breastfeed my baby in public, I am helping his hunger.
When I breastfeed my baby in public, I am not trying to prove a point.

When I breastfeed my baby in public, I do not believe that I am better than other mothers because of it.

When I breastfeed my baby in public, I am not criticizing moms who feed their babies formula. 

I breastfeed in public because just like a bottle, my breast provide the nutrition my baby needs. I breastfeed my baby in public because I am doing what's best for me and my baby-- in the best way that I know how. When I breastfeed my baby in public, I am trying to do it as discretely as possible because all I want is for him to eat.

It's time for you to stop attacking mother's who breastfeed in public, and focus that energy on the real problems corrupting our society. It isn't the mother who is actually caring for her child. 

I hope you can see the truth in that!

A Public Breastfeeder


  1. Well said! It just baffles me that there is so much disgust in society for something so natural. I can only hope our daughters arent faced with the same issues when they become mothers.

    1. Thank you Cassandra! It is so sad and frustrating- I hope attitudes start changing!

  2. I think you are so on point with this post. It's a shame that in today's society, mothers/women judge other mothers/women. As a group, we should support one another in choices. Not berate them for the ones they make. Even if other women disagree and choose a different option, who are we to criticize them? It's a shame that we even have to discuss such things. But, I applaud you in this post. Since I am not yet a mother, I have yet to experience anything like this but I would like to think I should have to hide in my choice either. Thank you for this!

    1. Thank you for the comment Nancy and you're welcome :) Like you mentioned- as women we should support eachother! It is very disheartening to have to even write about this but Imthink the more we discuss it the more awareness we brong to the issue. I hope you're having a great Holiday season!